Yea, some people are just too worried what their peers think and arent (strong/brave) enough to go against the group. If my wife did this, I doubt I'd ever care to be into intimate with her again. Its amazing where friendship comes from in the darkest of times. NOBODY SHOULD TALK LIKE THAT ABOUT ANYONE. The real question on my mind is why is she friends with people who belittle you for your sexuality? Ugh. Couples therapy. Here are some examples: I know you and I have different views on sexuality, but I love my husband and will not stand to hear him be talked about in this manner., My husband is not gay, please stop insinuating he is. subject change, Yeah, I dont think thats funny. (Or just not laughing and keeping a stone cold face until the others get uncomfortable), Thats actually not your business, lets talk about something else., I am uncomfortable talking about this, lets talk about something else., Your wife gave into the toxicity of her friends and that doesnt make her a better person for it even if she really doesnt think that way. She needs to know that what she did was hurtful and unacceptable, and you deserve an apology not only from her, but from her fucking idiot friends too. Embarrassed..then it turned to rage. If yes then walk and bear the burdens of the breakup, but if you think you together are worth saving, then do something to sort out the issues and move beyond it. I can understand your hurt, and breach of trust, but people act stupid sometimes. Second communicate. I have no advice but as a fellow bi, my condolences. This is what her and her friends did to you. What she did was the lowest of the low and completely unacceptable. You deserve better treatment from her. Not to mention she outed him and didn't even come clean and let him know, instead allowed the jokes to flow for a couple years - that's pretty unforgivable. This is probably something couples therapy can help you navigate. She's lying to you to save face. It won't repair the damage that's been done. Good luck mate I hope you're able to get through this with no drama. That's the truth. With women like you out there in the world, why the fuck would anyone settle for less? The thing that's most revolting is that she'd hang you out to dry just to agree with her mates. After reading this post, I was so shocked I seen this as the first comment but was also laughing badly. She hurt you fucking badly. I also really dont like how shes the one who initiates/etc yet was making fun of it?? Take a few more days. If you think you can continue in a relationship with someone who is so nonchalantly willing to throw you, your feelings, and your whole person under the bus so easily, for what? Best of luck, stay happy, and be you (those who disagree can simply get out). I would be so freaking upset & sad. Honestly, I don't know if I'd be able to get past never being able to trust her with personal stuff again. THAT is a stand up friend. Then one friend says I could never be with a man who like men. So I would lean towards suggesting forgiving her and working on this. No true friend will stab you in the back. I suggest therapy for you for your feelings and how you want the relationship to proceed. Imagine all the other crap she does drunk, only to blame it on being drunk . People knowing that hes bi will damage his reputation? You are NOT overreacting. 1) Your wife was so freaked she let the fact that you're bi slip out two years ago yet continues to discuss it with them? To her, you're the butt of the joke. Best of luck man. Look beyond her faux Pas and look at the positives and what you enjoy. Like who knows what other shitty conversations she participated in, especially since this isn't the first time they've expressed this kind of thinking. She knows shes an ass, and her friends know their actions were trash. Don't minimize the situation and don't let anyone gaslight you into thinking you are overreacting or that this isn't divorce-level situation. Well he's not open about being bi so I'm pretty sure he does care about it. People can be so two-faced with that kind of thing. This right here. Still, you are gonna have a serious talk and you're gonna have to make her understand this was unacceptable. Your sexuality isn't really fodder to take the piss out of. Tuesday night we hosted a small gathering (all vaxxed) with some of our couple friends. Solve thid situation by TALKING let her explain herself and then tell her what you feel. I'll be dammed if a single one of my friends said anything like that about my man. You can't unhear it and if you don't bring it up, your resentment will grow and your self-esteem. When we had problems of a sexual nature it made me feel worse that her friends who would constantly gossip amongst each other knew. My dad was bisexual and if I heard my mother saying shit like that about him Id be livid. We had a group of our friends over and as the night went on we all kind of busted out into little groups. Fuck how you want to fuck. I wish you the best of luck and although feelings usually subside after sleep, please don't just say everything is alright when this incident has revealed fundamental issues in the relationship's trust and overall what she deems to be acceptable conversations with friends. You definitely have every right to be upset and angry, but I honestly feel like she is telling you the truth, and they were just unfortunately things you werent supposed to hear. Also you say you feel emasculated. That's only for me and my wife to know. Im a bisexual guy, I like guys strictly sexually. I'd be very hesitant about taking her words at face value. Things ended when Tom took a job across the country and my wife chose not to follow him. Youd be second guessing everything they tell you from here in. Just want to say the other husband is a stand up guy. Nowadays? I (45M) have been married to my wife (45F) for 20 years. My suggestion? Then the friend asked my wife if she had ever been tempted to cheat on me with (insert ex-boyfriend's name), to which my wife replied saying hell no, that she would never risk our marraige like that. He claims it was just he was not mature and never meant any of the terrible things he did. I might not go as far as to say shes only sorry she got caught, but the current reaction is definitely because she got caught. Thats some boomer logic about the sex binary of gay/straight. Allow yourself to feel all of your emotions and really process them before jumping into heavy discussion with her. You have a couple of children and a good life up until now. Ngl bro the first halve is disrespect enough, you now know she keeps important shit to herself like Tom tryna derail your marriage and is at the same time comfortable sharing your personal life with her friends and entertaining her friends disrespecting you in your own home. But try couples counseling and go from there. By bringing it up then and making your feelings the most important feelings in the room, you are being childish. Then go for it. You poor man, I so want to give you a hug. We have been married for more than 10 years and have . I also pointed out that every single one of her relationships ended up being abusive so she had no right to tell me to leave my boyfriend when he'd never lay a finger on me. I mean i think you can talk it out?? he was more "passionate" etc. I turned to my wife with a raised eyebrow and announced I guess you didnt have me pegged to be a man that would stand up for himself! And I majestically brushed my cape back and walked right out of the house. i love him but he doesn't excite me the way Tom did. Make sure she knows how traumatic that was for you. She pulled her friends into your marriage and made you the butt of a running joke. You need a therapist to help you process what you're feeling, you need to process that in your time and she needs to fucking wait for you to do it if she really cares about you. Its amazing where friendship comes from in the darkest of times. She needs to apologize to you in a way that doesn't offset the blame to her friends. You need to learn how to deal with being outed and your stupid wife needs to understand the true ramifications for you. I thanked him. But that's fucked You need to stand up for your person to your friends not play along. P.O Box 30080-00100,Nairobi, Kenya. Made her feel embarrassed and she knows that she fucked up. My 2 cents is not worth much, but why did she not feel the need to tell you when she realized she let it slip from the drunken night? If my friends talked about my SO like that I would be livid and we wouldnt be friends anymore. I 100% understand why you're so upset. I was in a conversation with two other girls about anal sex. i would like to add a partner should never ever make you feel ashamed or embarrassed about your sexuality. He heard her, not us) about visualizing other men. Then one girl left and all of a sudden the other girl is giving pointers! If you do want to try to stay with her then, at minimum, you need to insist on marriage counseling immediately and you also need to insist that she completely cut the two homophobic/judgmental friends out of her life. Not the act itself. Good luck bro! It takes a lot of trust and vulnerability to explore kinks with somebody. It sounds more like it's a matter of comfort and trust. Come on, you're not 19 anymore. She sounds sorry and your marriage is great, so maybe dont listen too carefully to all the people telling you to get a divorce. Partners that demand that have no respect for you. The big question is are you still in love with your wife and enjoy having a family with her? Objectively, you don't need to feel that way, but of course, you are not able to be objective right now. I could only imagine how crap you feel right now. That would be the end for me. It may actually be useful separating your real friends from the judgemental ones. Sorry if this is all over the place. It's healthy and necessary. There is no combination of words that will make all this just go away. If shes serious about your marriage shell reassess her friends group too. Once you have accepted what you can't change, then you can move forward, either using gratitude or optimism to recover & reframe the situation. Remember also that it is okay to feel uncomfortable - instead of fighting these feelings, allow them to just pass through you. Im bi and from a close knit, homophobic religious family. She continued to ignore my boundary. Thats pretty telling. I turned around and stormed off to our room. How do you hang out with that friend group now knowing all their extra bullshit? My husband is also bi, and I would never mock his sexuality like that. Don't go silent on her. Only point I wanted to make: it doesnt have to be one or the other. Agreed! Right I mean she volunteered stuff when she could have kept her mouth shut. Get used to me being stupid". This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. Then throw in this scenario that she was bisexual and the "boys" called her a "butch lesbian who doesn't really like dick.". She basically said, well if you werent listening at the door you wouldnt be upset right now. Is she going to put them as well and claim she didnt mean it and that she was just drunk or gossiping? Would she throw them under the bus too or try to forbid them from coming out? She kept her bad friends 4. 2.) It's going to suck, but it's always worth it to try and move on. She brought her marriage outside where it shouldn't belong. she needs to stand by you and say that shes proud of you and supports you. Also she devolved some abusivo behaviour which, according to her was due to the lack of sex. It sounds like shes remorseful. The only talking I'd be doing at that point would be discussing how she wants to split custody. If she had doubled down and defended herself and her friends, then that would be a break up situation imo. You deserve that. Do not just shrug it off if you stay. Do you actually believe that she didn't have any agency? If you two have a solid relationship, you should be able to work through this. Therapy is the next logical step. How I interpret you feel: she betrayed your trust, she shared your private life, and then made fun of it. My step-dad said, "I feel like I always have to watch what I have to say, and I shouldn't have to worry about . She put you down at your own house. I (28M) with fiance (27F) about a month ago overheard her tell a friend her previous Ex was the best lover she ever had It was quite by accident that I heard this. I packed a bag, kissed the kids goodbye, and told them I was going to grandmas house to help her with something. I am pretty much an open book with my partners. I was so suprised how she talked about me to her friends and family..and when I confronted her I had the evidence. My wife and I always have a number one rule at the foundation of our relationship: never say a bad word about each other to anyone else. What she did is not a simple mistake. I can also understand how this could be a blow to your confidence. Who cares if she feels pressured by her friends to make fun of your sexuality or thinking about Tom, she either has shitty friends or she needs to take accountability for her actions and learn to grow up. Doesn't matter if she means it or not. She is reacting the right way to this, in that she's clearly upset and remoresful for her actions. First of all, you're right to cool down before making decision on anything. And her dissing your sexual needs to her friends and I truly understand that it was very hurtful and disrespectful to you and your marriage. she outed you, made cruel jokes about your guys sex life, and didnt shut down her friends for being homophobic/biphobic. It actually did make me feel a little better. No matter how stupid, stupid turnt I got, I would NEVER be in a state of mind to let such a personal, private thing slip out. You can be understanding of her error, but she has to build up trust back with you. She may end up escalating the situation. But, she finally conceded maybe he was genuine. She and her group of mean girls clearly cant accept that. If it was an accident, she should have come clean when it happened. Remind her of this without judging. She shouldnt care what others think of her or you, let alone talk about you negatively behind your back. As far as your confidence goes, why has that taken a hit? Also? As others have said you've been outed and made fun of for YEARS now and the weight of that should be made apparent to your "wife". Lol see. So here is a truth I don't think many men/women/etc get: SO's talk. It's terrible. Add on the fact that her friends were telling her that Tom was in town - thats another reason she needs to drop the problematic friends. Its so stupid, Im sure shes great in all other aspects but she needs to stand up for you. Great comment. Or even a long drive. She violated your trust in one of the worst possible ways and there really isn't any way to walk it back, The thing that sucks the most is that now that there was a blowupthose judgmental friends who she told about your sexualitywill be running their mouths to all their other friends and coworkers and more and more people will be told something you never wanted shared. I think it wouldve been different if maybe she had some concerns and needed someone to confide in about it, but she shouldve never allowed them to speak about you that way. And regarding the "I let it slip while drunk" part, she's still responsible for her acts while drunk, and if she isn't she shouldn't be drinking. It sounds like her friends are shit. Your marriage is between the two of you. The world is bad enough with mean enough people, you dont need your team mate trash talking you too. Divorce may be an end result. Yeah, I have a hunch that her apology is going to include counseling and new friends. Do those stupid things include degrading your bisexual SO to friends with homophobic views? When the bi thing slipped, she should have told you. Juatt know that that is okay and it can take as long as it takes. I'm reading all the comments and really appreciate the advice and support guys . We have 2 amazing kids. I have no idea how you will be able to have sex with her. OK she was drunk and your sexuality came out in a stupid moment. 1. Hes outed now. But 2 years later she is still talking about your most sacred aspect of your personal life, buy filling in her friends on the most private part of your life. Soooo. Get your better halves and get the fuck out of my house I sniped as I tipped my fedora and winked at my wifes hottest friend who was clearly impressed by my rage erection that had partially split the seam in my relaxed fit Levi 501s. When people start talking about things that are intimate, sometimes they succumb to the pressure (not necessarily peer pressure in the "tell us, tell us sense, but more the pressure to feel bonded, to feel close to friends) to share things they shouldn't. He and I werent real close, but wed hang out here and there and always enjoyed one anothers company at get togethers and stuff. I'm not saying she will, I don't know her and can't make that call. Maybe you should ask him if that not problem why he upset. She broke your trust, plain and simple. I am so pissed off on OP's behalf. That should have been end of story then and there. A Young Boy Hires Prostitute For One Hour 42:46. As in, never talk to them again. No. That power over you is now dissipated - especially if you do your best to be yourself and act normal. To me this is an unfortunate situation one you would never have known about but for some low key curious snooping and snooping isn't meant as you were being a sneaky individual just a situation happened and you were part off it. So props to you. She does have a right to talk to you about it, and you with her. They are what they are and they are very real. It felt terrible. I'm just saying people can be stupid. First of all, I don't trust your wife. The biggest thing in my mind is, she shouldn't be saying things to appease her friends because she thinks they'll judge her for being with you. She immediately started apologizing and saying she loves me and it was drunk girl talk and she didnt mean anything. Your wife betrayed your trust, and knowingly let her friends make homophobic comments. Tell her that not another drop of alcohol is going to pass her lips from now on, it obviously addles her common sense. You deserve so much better than this. You need to accept yourself for who you are. Your partner in crime fucked up. Emasculated. Here are some of my favorite quotes (I collect them). Imagine it was a really graphic conversation, about all her body parts or how she is bad at oral sex, and it included discussions of your ex-girlfiend for comparison. Mom and boy 22:56. First of all, I think we all say less than admirable things about our SOs at times. Clearly and simply. I think your wife is genuine when she said it was just drunken girl talk and that she was intimidated into saying things because of her friends. Im one of the long time married people commenting in this sub. Or no, either way it was gross as fuck. I don't know what I'd do. Kidding aside. Unless they're all like that and she's just throwing a couple out for a meat shield, like she did with you. Second, if you know somebody is making fun of you over something so intimate and personal, how can you enjoy it again? I dont air out our dirty laundry for anyone else to see, especially when it comes to sex. She more than likely enjoys your sex life and marriage, but is ashamed at how her friends make her feel, and used you as an outlet. Right? A couple of laffs? I can give you the exact number of people's secrets I have revealed while drunk Is fucking zero. Most of it was on alt accounts he made. No shit. This was really jarring. I told this to my then partner with all the trust in the world. It was lovely that the mate called you and said what he did. I genuinely thought we were in love, until I overheard her on the phone recently remarking to a friend that she feels she settled for me and thinks about her ex every day. When you have a PARTNER that partner should be in your corner 100% of the time. Wow dude. Its not an easy solution. They all laugh. It's only a reference to who you choose to have sex with. I know that your * secret life * is very personal to you, but not many people will be concerned or even bothered about your sexuality. Everyone doesnt wAnt an asshole who Your wife needs some new friends. Divorce. The friends that she's now claiming are judgemental need to be cut off. I would DIE if my husband mocked me being bi like your wife did. Cuz while I get what youre saying, what OPs wife said was beyond just a little oopsie. Seems to me that because of her indifference to your feelings, she needs to get rid of those friends because she emasculated you in front of them. Very few people know so I was instantly fucking pissed because if they knew, its cause my wife told them. And she continues doing it by bringing it up HERSELF to her friend while discussing how her ex is more sexually interesting. The women were all on the patio outside. Talk it out and see if she can commit to working on this need to put on appearances. At the end of the day hets are gonna het, I'm really sorry man. Do you believe what she told you? Thats her game, and I suggest therapy and also congratulate you, my dude, on taking it so calmly. Just here to let you know bi guys are preferable. I would divorce my husband if he let his friends make comments about my sexuality, and then proceeded to say he fantasized about other women during sex. All I know is I would never trust my wife ever again after something like this. I don't know that I could ever trust and be vulnerable with her again. She should have known to do that herself beforehand. Maybe. OP can do better than Tom. Im a masculine male with a bit of a cocky arrogance to me and I feel like all my confidence is gone. If you want to save your marriage and restore trust some sort of therapy is probably necessary. Would she still have the friends over knowing how they feel? They are not good people (homophobes are not good people), and they don't give a shit about you or your relationship with her. How could you ever trust this person again. I live in a fairly large Canadian metropolitan area, most guys I know and hang out with are even a little bi. But it's not cool to talk about your spouse like that to fit in and it's definitely not cool to talk about your intimate secrets with other people. Same. You have every right to your feelings and if the roles were reversed there would still be hurt feelings. Me: Oh, does (friend) work with Tom? I said this as sarcastically as possible. I dont know what to do. It was a private part of your life that you trusted her with. Like it may have been rooted in some truth, but exaggerated and theatricated for like entertainment purposes. This is now twice that she has blabbed something intensely personal while intoxicatedthat you know about. There is nothing wrong with you. Your wife doesn't have your back. Don't rush the feels phase. The Geni has escaped from the bottle, as there's no chance of putting it back in, you need to deal with the humiliation that you feel in how it was told. Plus she essentially participated or at the least validated, them ridiculing his sexuality. I reckon that weve all said things we wouldnt want our SO to hear at some point. Its one thing for the wife and her friends to be talking about you, but they were talking about you and laughing. She should have told you from the beginning that she let it slip and stood up for you to her friends. She has betrayed your trust. I would 100% be considering divorce over this, if in OPs shoes. I am a very chill guy. I had no privacy. Truly when you come to the realisation your partner has such a low view , I sympathise a lot with you dude. Your wife hates that you're bi. All you heard was a snippet of the conversation that you could loud and clear despite being in another room. But she enjoys to embarrass you to her friends behind your back about it. We have an exciting and active sex life. Anything she says in the moment right now can't be trusted because she'll do or say whatever it takes to keep you. Then, when I was in the bathroom (just outside of their bedroom door), I could hear them talking about me. OP-the one man who reached out to you, I feel he is a solid individual and have to give You major points to talking with him. Right now is the time for your wife to stand by you. There's a lot that isn't adding up about her explanation to you. Stand firm in that it wasn't okay to disclose private information that you didn't want to be made public. I knew I wasnt in a good state and ignored all of them. I think that you need a good week to try and think about how you feel, how you're going to be able to contain the gossip and how you move forward with the wife . Couples counseling could help. My conjecture is that she did so because of the above reasons basically to seem cool. That is a childish excuse, to blame alcohol for being a terrible friend and partner. Neither is divorce. This reeks of blatant disrespect, stupidity, ignorance, and bullshit. Your wife said that she accidently let slip two years ago you were bi. The trust cannot be restored and it would be better to separate for now. You two will need some couples counselling after this incident, and some of what you will do in the future will be decided by if you can overcome a natural feeling of anger and resentment that you feel. we're both 28. Watch your back op!! If its been a long time she maybe used to be that way but not anymore and still knows how to do the diggs they like. Saying that it was simply too small. I was hurt when I found out he had outed me to a couple of friends while bragging about some of our exploits, and he apologetically told me the day he did it because it just slipped out during bro time reading your story made my stomach churn. Your wife is all kinds of an AH here. The bottom pine is you're supposed to be able to confide in her about these things and she's mishandled your trust. I'm not defending her actions. If alcohol was involved the first time she told them, maybe she was talking about it because she wanted to get a read on how her friends would react. I believe you'll deal with this and adapt. i think you do need to consider the idea that it probably was indeed just girl talk, same as when guys just chat shit together. She maybe deserves the benefit of the doubt. Yet, evrything else you've said indicates that she does value you: this relationship was not strained up until this point, and nobody (apart from some really messed up people) can "play pretend" for so long. And can think clearly. She's painting an imaginary picture for these "friends" with absolutely no regard to the feelings of the person she's supposed to love & care for. Or will she stand by him, tell her friends she is the one who was lying because she was afraid of their reactions, and own her shit? It very much is and if you let them gaslight you and suppress how you actually feel, you will feel a huge burden and trust issues for the rest of your life. But there are definitely lines, and she crossed a big one. Im gonna get downvoted for this but I think you should hear it anyway OP. Even if it was a close call, you dont say that. She said that was why she made the comment about thinking about Tom during some things we do sexually because she felt they were judging her for being with me. Now, this is fine! I totally dont get why she would lie and say he begged for the gay stuff if she was wanting it. She insulted your sexual performance 5. She is trying to write this shit off as a mistake. Let her know how betrayed you feel. My late uncle had to watch his wife leave him on his sick bed because she couldn't bring herself so be seen that way, talking about "a whole me tending to a sick man, me I can't oh let his family do it ".. She and her boyfriend did it regularly. And regarding the "I let it slip while drunk" part, she's still responsible for her acts while drunk. I think you did the right thing in the moment but I would want her to confront her friends if what she said was true and come clean herself to them, Shes bullshitting about not meaning any of it. Oh My God, seriously? I told her if she kept talking shit about him, I'd stop talking to her. It was lovely that the mate called you and said what he did. Humanity is an ocean. I bet you can still hold your head high with them. Its just so cowardly and shows she's not on your team. You should seek marriage counseling after this. Fuck this situation. You need to tell her how this has made you feel and how hurt you are by it. Right? She just let it slip. Best of luck. Exactly! Girls can be katty and have fun taking diggs at each other (guys too but its a stereotypical thing with girls). She sounds like she cares way too much about what these women think. I got in my car and drove to my mom's house. Accept yourself, just try to improve. I just dont believe that all the people who have commented how awful your wife is, have never said things they regret. As a not entirely straight guy myself I would be pretty mortified to go through this. Fourthly, buy that man a beer. I am so sorry this has happened to you. 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